Is it okay for me, as a woman of faith, to believe in science and medicine? Is it okay to make use of services provided by a doctor, psychiatrist/psychologist, or pharmacist?
First of all, let me clarify that I have a great pastor, Christian friends, and family. I am thankful for the support I receive every day.
Unfortunately, the Christian community still has a long way to go to improve the understanding of ADHD, learning differences, and mental health issues.
I will admit it, this has been a real tough one for me.
Imagine this scenario. I share with my pastor or friend how difficult it has been dealing with my ADHD symptoms, and how anxious I feel, not just during times of stress. I can’t sleep at night and feel like my heart is pounding. I am given some specific scripture verses, the name of a new book about anxiety by a noted christian author, and a reminder to keep believing that God does not intend for me to live with anxiety and fear. God designed our bodies to rest, and as I learn to trust in Him I will have peace and rest. We pray together, and talk about ways to relax and fall asleep.
That is not bad advice. Who doesn’t want spiritual advice from a pastor or spiritual mentor? But let’s look at the difference between the advice that is typically given for another issue …
Let’s use that same scenario again. I share with my friend how high my blood pressure has been, even on the days my stress levels are low. I have been reading a book that was recommended and have focused my attention on scripture verses that talk about God’s love and care for me. My friend responds with strong advice to see my doctor as soon as possible. She is surprised that I feel guilty for having high blood pressure. She reminds me that God can heal our bodies in many ways, and that He uses doctors and medications to help us.
Do you see where I’m going here? Have you ever felt like your ADHD or anxiety/depression is viewed by others as a spiritual issue or personal weakness?
When I finally did more research and learned that my brain is wired differently, I felt angry. I now knew that my ADHD, depression, anxiety, and sleep issues were very much part of my DNA. I had blamed myself for all these years for something that was not my fault or in my control. I felt like I wasted so much time feeling sad and inadequate, when I could have been much happier.
Now that I have been able to process these feelings, I can’t really blame anyone, nor do I want to waste another moment reliving the past. There just wasn’t the same kind of information available in my world 40 years ago. But now I know. Time to move on. Time to forgive myself and others. Time to help other people understand so that the future for myself and others is brighter and better. So, yes, it is very ok to seek medical help for your ADHD. Your faith and the wisdom that God has given to doctors and mental health professionals can work together to help you feel better.
Care for your whole self, equally and fairly.
Elaine